From my personal experience… when you start focusing on yourself, friends and family will drop off.
They will not understand why or challenge you when you give a reason as to why you are unable to do a “thing”. They will not understand that you do not have time or are simply tired. Me, being a college student, athlete, parent, business owner; I run into this frequently. You start focusing on yourself, making yourself better… you have less time for them. Some friends may not be able to understand that you cannot be there for them during this time, that all your extra focus is on yourself and your internal “drama.” They won’t understand the trials of staying on track, working, timing your meals, waking up at 3am to do cardio (because I have to be the best, so I will do the work), they don’t understand the late nights of cooking your meals, prepping for the next day, making sure you have everything you need to be successful. All while juggling parenting, school, and work – I am not speaking specifically about friends, family as well. No one, and I mean no one will understand what you have to go through mentally or physically to get on that stage, to play in a football game, to train in your sport or simply just striving to be the best YOU can be.
That being said… focusing on yourself will cause fights, you will be devalued because you cancel plans as you are so tired from trying to be the best, you are late to places, you can’t eat this and you can’t eat that. Everyone will question, why? Why put yourself through this?
The answer: Because I will be the best at <insert thought here>